Dear little voice inside my head,
Thank you for bringing to my attention the potential problems that you have identified. I really appreciate when you let me know what problems you think may lie ahead. You are a necessary and useful tool that helps me identify my insecurities so I can work on them and get closer to living a life of joy. I know that you are only trying to help. You just want to keep me safe and alive, I get that.
There is, however, no reason why I need to stop everything I am doing and hop on the worry train. There is no reason for me to derail my day over something that is only one of many possible outcomes and I know that’s not really your goal anyway. Besides, worrying is like praying for whatever it is you are warning me about to come true. So I’m definitely not going to do that!
I’d prefer it if you could use your powerful scanning tools to look for the things I do want so that we can both be satisfied with the outcome. In order to help you identify those things, I will read a handwritten list of them every morning before I start my day and also every time you present me with a possible problem. That way, instead of you scanning the environment for problems that aren’t real, you can find opportunities to move forward towards our goals. I know you respond better to things I write out than to things I type, anyway.
So, little voice inside my head, I want you to know that I value you and your ability to scan my environment for potential threats and I will never try to silence you because I know that you’re really an asset. Not to mention that fighting with you only makes you louder because you want to be sure I am taking you seriously and fighting you just makes me more tired. Which takes energy away from achieving my goals. Instead, I will use your suggestions to better understand myself & my insecurities and to find out how badly I want to be happy. From now on, I will help you help me.
Thank you for always being there for me.
P.S. Sorry for calling you a demon all of those other times! I couldn’t see you for the powerful friend you are trying to be.
P.P.S. I know you’re not actually separate from me but really an important part of me.